Be Spontaneous...

When I got out of the hospital a few years ago and was recovering, I told my boyfriend “I’m a go with the flow type of girl.” He started cracking up. To which he responded “Cayley there is nothing about you that is go with the flow.” Humph. Recently I said something similar to my dad. His respond “if the flow goes exactly how you planned it.” Really!?! Then he reminded me of my youth. I asked for an alarm clock in 2nd grade because I wanted to be ready for school on time. Just a year later when I started playing sports, I had to know what time we needed to leave by. I would then plan out how long each task of getting ready would take and set my alarm accordingly. So maybe ‘easy going’ wasn’t my middle name, I wanted to be prepared! There are all kinds of explanations for why I was this way, but the reality is, I am super type A. I love checklists, I love accomplishing and planning comforts me. The downside is I can get irritable and frustrated when things don’t go my way or when there is no plan. I also can lack spontaneity. I’m pretty much okay with this, but I have to consider other people and the way they like to do things. My fiancé is a go with the flow type of guy. He doesn’t like time limits or planning things out, he relishes in doing nothing. He reminds me to chill out, relax and take a breath. I remind him that sometimes, you got to pick up the pace. In the spirit of living in the moment of each day and really living, I thought it would be good to step out of my comfort zone. Now planners be careful. Planning to be spontaneous is a total contradiction. Instead, I am being mindful of it and looking for opportunities to do something on a whim and purposely NOT planning all of my time. A little daunting when so many things right now need to be planned but a good exercise none the less. Last week, I was spontaneous. I realized Seattle Restaurant Week was almost over, and I was going to miss out. I HAD planned on cooking that night and going to the gym. I then started thinking of all the reasons why I shouldn’t try something out last minute. Then I stopped myself and asked my fiancé if he wanted to try some place new and go out to dinner that night. Of course, he said yes, and we did it. Now in full honestly, there was a smidge of planning because it wasn’t totally spur of the moment, but we all got to start somewhere right? The night turned out to be a success and fun. I was able to plan gym time for later in the week and all the reasons why I was thinking I couldn’t be spontaneous were irrelevant. There has to be a healthy compromise of some planned and unplanned events. Checking things off a list makes me feel a sense of accomplishment, but it can be balanced with a healthy dose of flying by the seat of my pants and going with the flow!